so i've been thinking alot about what being natural means to me. it means alot of course but mostly it mean being myself and embracing who i am and how i want people to see me.
i get alot of messages and emails about people's hair journey and hair goals alot of the time its about the desired hair length and that used to be me too i wanted thick natural LONG hair! but of late i've been wondering why? having a shaved head is so much easier for me and my life i believe it suits me and i don't go a day without someone passing positive comment on my bold look. so why do i still hunger for hair that reaches past my shoulder....or do i? i actually don't think i do i left my hair to grow the past six weeks and it got some good growth my hair texture has changed yet again and i was on the way to a cute TWA. but i went to the salon yesterday and shaved it all off. i know my hair will grow with care it will reach past my shoulders but then what? i won't be a different person, people won't like me any more or less than they do now, perhaps men will find me more attractive with long hair but do i really want to date a man that gives love according to hair lenght rather then the woman that i am regardless?
i told a friend that i was probably not going to grow back my hair, she said "but what about your wedding day?" huh? who said i was getting married? and if i was surely this man would be marrying more than my hair?
i guess i'm at the stage you get to beyond having a relaxer and going natural, the stage i believe you are at when u decide to have locks. i'm going to always be the girl with the bald head!
me and my bold headed best friend Carl!
IT IS A VERY NICE SUGGESTION, THANK YOU LOTS! ........................................
ReplyDeletegreat post u had me thinking a bit.
ReplyDeleteI LOVE YOUR ATTITUDE! I have been natural for a year now, and when i started i was DEPRESSED! i watched my best friend's hair grow while my hair went the turtle route...I took me 6 months into my journey to fully understand why i was natural...yes i wanted LONG HAIR? but then what? The point of going natural was to establish MY OWN IDENITY, based on my character, not my skin tone nor hair length.
ReplyDeleteI PRAISE YOU! AND I AM HAPPY FOR...
PS: dont worry about people, stay true to yourself.
LOVE & PEACE
Why does anyone have to have long hair for their wedding day? I've actually done that to myself, said I can't have short hair forever, 'cause it has to be long for my wedding. Says who?! Seriously, it's your wedding, and you can wear your hair whatever way you want.
ReplyDeleteSupporting your baldness :)
If you did decided to get married one day, i think bald look would be absolutely fierce w/ a hot wedding dress...but that's just me :)
ReplyDeleteDo what makes you happy, the short cut looks good on ya!
I love you for this natural belle. I have had the same conversations. You are not alone. Sometimes I question my need to wear my hair short. Like you I have decided that for my life this is what I like. I get compliments constantly and GOD gave me a nice head why not wear it. I'm no less of a woman if it isn't long. In some ways, this is why Indie.Arie's song "I am not my hair" is so important. Rock it! Their are too many beautiful women who rock the short cut and they are no less feminine. Sometimes their look captures you more than the long hair beauty because it is a bold move. Keep doing what you do! Enjoyed the update! I'm glad you are sticking with it. It looks wonderful on you. And I just want to let you know you keep me encouraged!
ReplyDeleteLove, love, love your fade.
ReplyDeleteAs natural women, there is always this underlying pressure to grow long, non chemically produced hair. It's like we are constantly trying to prove to non naturals that anything they can do, we can do better. And I bought into the hype for a while as well. But at the end of the day, it's just hair and you have to do what works for you and your lifestyle. If you are lazy like me, twist-outs and cornrows, while beautiful to look at, just aren't my type of thing.
I personally was saddened when you decided to grow your hair back out because you represent so well for the "bald" naturals. And even if you decide to grow it all out tomorrow (cause it is JUST hair), please know that you are an inspiration to many of us out here.
And I know you will be SUPER fly at your wedding no matter what your hair looks like at the time!
Yes! That is a great attitude. I use to have the little boy cut and I love it. Right now I am growing my hair out for the first time. I love love low cuts. Keep rockin it!You look great!
ReplyDeletei like this attitude! its not necessary to have long hair as a woman!and that bold head looks really pretty on u!
ReplyDeleteGosh ! you really had me thinking too reading your post ! I big chopped 7 months ago and i was almost bald at that time and in the beginnig all i was thinking about was that i looked like a boy and ijust couldn't wait to grow out long hair! Now, 7 months later since my hair haven't grown that long , and because i kind of have enough taking care of my hair because of my lifestyle as a student (i'm ALWAYS in a hurry lol ) i even considered cutting off my TWA to rock the bald ! i'm not doing it because i want to be able to see once in my life a big afro on my head but i think that if later i decided to shave my head again i won't really bother now , i won't take it as the end of the world or the end for my feminity like i did before ! thanks to bloggers like you i'm more confident today! and strong enough to be myself ! and i really thank you for that , you really inspire me natural-belle ! Peace.
ReplyDeleteU look gorgeous. Suits you. I can't wait to shave my hair off again.
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I wish I had the face to rock a short hair style coz honestly am tired of shelling out hundreds of dollars for braiding and products for my hair...whether as a natural or relaxed state.
ReplyDeleteI do like ur article~!!!..................................................
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